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These things happen in life; who would thought these are just plots or storylines made for a movie?
When i was watching the independent film, "Mga Paru-parong Rosas" (Pink Butterflies, 2006) i cant stop myself but to answer the arguments of the characters, Dan and Rowlan. They are in a "relationship" for almost eight months even though Rowlan is married already and has kids. Meanwhile the other one is about to get married. They are meeting every week, sometimes every other week, in their love nest to savor each other's company. But then, things couldnt get worse since Dan is feeling both guilty and apprehensive towards his upcoming marriage. He cant think of living with someone he doesnt even love while pretending that everything is fine.
Rowlan seemed to be very cool about Dan's feelings, giving advices and reassurances that everything would be okay, even saying that those feelings are normal since he himself had already been through it. Very typical of a guy; giving false reassurances while pretending to be listening.
Both of them are clueless of what should they do: to continue with their relationship and live with their lies to their families or open up with their feelings and finally reveal their relationship. This is one of the points i got in the movie, would you risk the "comfort" of your life, your job, the image you have projected to your family so that you could be free or continue pretending and be miserable as a compromise to "the rules of the society?"
It is fear of being rejected and plunging their families into a scandal that makes it difficult for them to defend their love. I dont know if there is something more valuable than true love but all in all it's the truth that screams inside of them to be set free. One of the lines i can't forget is: "Paano na lang kung sabihin sa nanay ko na may anak siyang bakla?" (What if somebody tells my mother that her son is a gay?)
During the movie, i cant stop myself from saying that they better leave everything behind if they really love each other. Though it sounds so ideal, it's not really pragmatic to do so. But who cares anyway if you would try; i remember when my boyfriend told me that if we are together then we could do anything and be successful.
Fear of rejection, pain and judgement makes it difficult for most of us to reveal ourselves; these are also obstacles to our peace of mind and happiness. If you are truly sure of who you are, then you know where your path lies. Pretending to be someone you dont believe yourself to be would only lead to more problems and complications. Do i sound really ideal or just being right? Maybe to do so would be an act of bravery.
I'll leave you a line from the movie before i close this post: "Buti pa ang mga bakla sa parlor, kahit tinutukso sila, masaya pa rin sila. Napakatapang nila upang ilantad ang mga sarili nila." (Better are those gays in the parlors; even though they are taunted and rejected, they're still happy. They're so brave to reveal themselves.)
When i was watching the independent film, "Mga Paru-parong Rosas" (Pink Butterflies, 2006) i cant stop myself but to answer the arguments of the characters, Dan and Rowlan. They are in a "relationship" for almost eight months even though Rowlan is married already and has kids. Meanwhile the other one is about to get married. They are meeting every week, sometimes every other week, in their love nest to savor each other's company. But then, things couldnt get worse since Dan is feeling both guilty and apprehensive towards his upcoming marriage. He cant think of living with someone he doesnt even love while pretending that everything is fine.
Rowlan seemed to be very cool about Dan's feelings, giving advices and reassurances that everything would be okay, even saying that those feelings are normal since he himself had already been through it. Very typical of a guy; giving false reassurances while pretending to be listening.
Both of them are clueless of what should they do: to continue with their relationship and live with their lies to their families or open up with their feelings and finally reveal their relationship. This is one of the points i got in the movie, would you risk the "comfort" of your life, your job, the image you have projected to your family so that you could be free or continue pretending and be miserable as a compromise to "the rules of the society?"
It is fear of being rejected and plunging their families into a scandal that makes it difficult for them to defend their love. I dont know if there is something more valuable than true love but all in all it's the truth that screams inside of them to be set free. One of the lines i can't forget is: "Paano na lang kung sabihin sa nanay ko na may anak siyang bakla?" (What if somebody tells my mother that her son is a gay?)
During the movie, i cant stop myself from saying that they better leave everything behind if they really love each other. Though it sounds so ideal, it's not really pragmatic to do so. But who cares anyway if you would try; i remember when my boyfriend told me that if we are together then we could do anything and be successful.
Fear of rejection, pain and judgement makes it difficult for most of us to reveal ourselves; these are also obstacles to our peace of mind and happiness. If you are truly sure of who you are, then you know where your path lies. Pretending to be someone you dont believe yourself to be would only lead to more problems and complications. Do i sound really ideal or just being right? Maybe to do so would be an act of bravery.
I'll leave you a line from the movie before i close this post: "Buti pa ang mga bakla sa parlor, kahit tinutukso sila, masaya pa rin sila. Napakatapang nila upang ilantad ang mga sarili nila." (Better are those gays in the parlors; even though they are taunted and rejected, they're still happy. They're so brave to reveal themselves.)
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